So, as I am getting home last night, I started to think about bills that need to go out and money and pretty much sent myself into anxiety overload. I know this comes as a shock to most of you, but yes, even millionaire teachers stress about money. Anyways, I texted my husband this long message of freaking out, to which he responded: “Relax. We will probably always have issues but I’d rather have them with you than with someone else who doesn’t love me.” Fair enough. Ditto.
This just happened to be perfect timing for a sweet reminder because the next day just happened to be a special day for us. Wedding Anniversary #5. Time seriously flies when you are having fun… or busy….or struggling…. but mostly when you are having fun. I have spent the last few days thinking about our relationship and I feel blessed for the amount of times I have smiled.
When we started dating in 2009 and we were both at weird turning points in our lives. I had just moved back west river from a terrible year in Aberdeen and he just recently moved back to the area from Cheyenne. Ray and I had a hot, but short lived flame a few years before this in high school. And since I feel like this is an official record, I just have to say that it was short lived because Ray never asked me to be his girlfriend. So, I jumped ship before I could get hurt. Turns out, he was scared too. HA! But, I have good faith that it all happened for a reason so that we could find each other again when we really needed each other. Anyways, we met up in October 2009 while I was home for a football game and everything happened pretty quickly after that. Ray isn’t home right now, but if he was he would want me to add to the official record by saying that I, LeeVi, said I love you first.
When Thanksgiving 2010 rolled around and we were still happily together, my parents had a talk with us about marriage. It was a loud, but subtle hint that they approve of our relationship and that there would be certain benefits to being married while I am going to school. Of course, we had talked about marriage before, but he hadn’t asked me yet! We spent the next couple weeks talking about marriage A LOT with our families and with each other and eventually decided, “Okay, let’s get married.” Yeah. Seriously. That was it. There was no proposal or anything fancy. Just an equal agreement. And it happened fast. We were married February 18,2011 at the Belle Fourche Courthouse.
I’m going to go off here for a second, don’t mind me… If you ever felt like you wanted to get people instantly jumping to conclusions, judging, and talking, all you have to do is have a short engagement and get married at the courthouse. EXCUSE ME! I wish I would have gotten some money for every time someone asked me, my parents, or my siblings if I was pregnant. WTH? Can two people not just get married without some kind of outside influence? And the naysayers! My goodness. The people that thought it was necessary to share their judgments with me was appalling. I can only imagine the ones who didn’t have the guts to say it my face. Ugh. That was maybe the most frustrating thing during those first few months….and I hope you are all enjoying the show now! :p
…Anyways…. We spent the next 2 years working my way through college. I was the one going to school, but it was definitely a joint effort. Ray had the responsibilities of keeping us going financially and keeping me going academically. College is hard. And marriage is hard. Not gonna lie, those first couple years were difficult. Lots of adjustments to make and we were both still working on growing up and had lots to learn yet about life. By the time I graduated in December 2013, our marriage was in a good place, we had actually started to try for a baby, and things were starting to fall in line with me getting a teaching job right away. We have spent the last 3 years working on our dreams of being happy, successful, and parents. I have devoted much of my time to teaching and coaching and Ray has kept busy being a mechanic. Late 2014 it was determined that our chances of conceiving a child was low, and as heartbreaking as that was, I think that it only brought us closer together. We were determined to not let that take away the joy that we could make for ourselves in our marriage. In fact, by the spring time we had not only accepted this, but we were excited about being the coolest aunt and uncle on the planet some day!
Then, this last fall, I got mono. Just kidding. I THOUGHT I had mono! Turns out, it was just a lil baby making me too exhausted to move! Say what?! Ray and I spent a week in shock I think. The first people we told were my parents a week later and then slowly got the word out to our siblings and extended family and finally made it public info at 18 weeks. We are completely and totally excited and thrilled and anxious to have this baby here. Don’t worry, her name won’t be Mono.
Sitting here, typing this lil love story at 29 weeks pregnant with our little miracle baby, and anxiously awaiting my husbands return from a business trip he has been on all week, I can’t help but smile. I know I have said it before, but I am going to say it again. God has blessed me beyond my hopes and dreams and we couldn’t have done any of this without our love and faith in Him.
Cheers to 5 years and so many more, Ray! I love you!